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Why Americans need more face-to-face civil discussions 'with folks outside their own bubble'

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We’re talking candles, quill pens, muskets, you name it. 

In a new series of articles — of which this is the first — I’m sharing some of the life lessons I learned from the Founders. (See the video at the top of this article.) 

He was a wonderful writer, political thinker and inventor (including swim fins!). 

But another reason I admire Franklin is that he was a huge fan of civil discourse. 

In his new book, "The Year of Living Constitutionally," author A.J. Jacobs "tried to understand America’s past and present by living like the Founding Fathers did." One of the highlights: Ben Franklin's focus on civil discourse.  (A.J. Jacobs; Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

In early America, Franklin formed a social club called the Junto. 

This group of men met every Friday to have in-depth conversations about how to improve themselves and their country. 

The rules encouraged a "spirit of inquiry" and discouraged a "fondness for dispute." The idea was to have more questioning, less arguing. 

The rules encouraged a "spirit of inquiry" and discouraged a "fondness for dispute." 

And one way I did so was to host 12 people at my home for an 18th-century-style dinner party.

We drank Martha Washington’s rum punch. We recited a toast from the Founding Fathers: "To freedom from mobs as well as kings." 

But more important than the food and drink was the makeup of the guests. 

I invited people from all over the political spectrum — conservatives, libertarians, moderates and progressives — and we had a wonderful discussion. A civil, in-depth discussion about the Constitution and America. 

"We had a wonderful discussion. A civil, in-depth discussion about the Constitution and America," says Jacobs about his dinner party with "people from all over the political spectrum." (spxChrome)

Instead of framing the dinner as a debate, we tried to look at it like a puzzle that we could all work to solve together. 

We discussed what evidence might change our minds or evolve our views. 

"We need more of the spirit of inquiry." 

I believe we need more of the spirit of inquiry. 

I think we need more listening. We need far fewer outraged posts on social media. 

Ben Franklin said that when we discuss politics or other controversial matters, we should avoid words such as "certainly" and "undoubtedly." 

Instead, we should use words such as "it appears to me," or "if I am not mistaken," or "I should think it so for such-and-such reasons." 

"The Year of Living Constitutionally" is bestselling author A.J. Jacobs' newest book, published this year by Crown.  (Fox News Digital)

Alexander Hamilton had a similar view. 

In "The Federalist Papers," he urges us to avoid an "intolerant spirit," adding that "in politics, as in religion, it is equally absurd to aim at making proselytes by fire and sword." 

"Engage in civil discourse with people from all walks of life."

Franklin said there was a French lady who was talking to her sister one day.

The French lady remarked how strange it was that she’d never met anyone except herself who was correct on every single issue. 

Franklin’s point was that all of us are all that French lady. 

We all believe we have a monopoly on the truth. 

I know I feel that way most of the time. 

But I try to fight that inclination and do what the Founders would do: Engage in civil discourse with people from all walks of life. 

One other piece of advice.

It’s OK to clean up using a 21st-century dishwasher. 

"The Year of Living Constitutionally: One Man's Humble Quest to Follow the Constitution's Original Meaning" by A.J. Jacobs (2024) is published by Crown.